I find it interesting to hear about the New Years resolutions my friends and family make each January. I sometimes wonder if they’re setting themselves up for failure by announcing their intentions to everyone they know. I find the more I make a promise to myself, it becomes my own personal endeavor and I seem to have a better chance of making it into a reality. I know for some people having only themselves to answer to simply doesn’t work. They need others to cheer them on to the finish line.
Some would disagree with me and say it’s best to inform the world what your goals are in order to make you more accountable and thus more successful. But does it help? I don’t think most of our friends and families would get on us and say they were truly disappointed that we gave up on our dreams or didn’t reach our goal. They may think it, but for most to come out and say it would be a whole new thing. There may even be some people around you who really don’t want you to succeed because it forces them to look at themselves. They may try to sabotage you if they secretly want to achieve the same thing but aren’t willing to do the work. A friend of mine who was trying to lose weight said some coworkers at her office started to bring bake goods in each morning after she made her vow to lose weight. I guess misery loves company.
Sometimes I see myself and others making unrealistic or gigantic goals.I know for many people it’s all or nothing. Thinking about my goals as doable small things instead of huge daunting changes makes them easier for me to achieve. I try to focus on small things that I can do. For example: If I want more exercise, I won’t vow to run a marathon or be in a weight lifting competition but I will walk my dog more or maybe park farther away from the door at the grocery store. I simply do what I call shifting gears. I increase or decrease what I’m already doing. If it’s writing more, I plan out small blocks of time to do that, but I have a life and saying I’m not going to do anything until I get a book written, is crazy. Soon I become resentful and writing becomes a chore where my ideas won’t flow. When that happens, I know I need to shift into a lower gear.
The month is almost over and for some their New Year resolutions are already tucked back in the closet only to be brought out again next year. I’m hope yours are still in focus and you’re still working on them. For me it’s all about shifting gears and getting there one way or another. Remember you’re already in the driver’s seat and you don’t have to be in fourth gear or reverse. As long as you get out of neutral and go forward you’ll end up where you want to be.
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The Keys to Paradise (A Tropical Romance) https://www.amazon.com/dp/1734084243
Only a Heartbeat Away (A Modern History Romance) https://www.amazon.com/dp/1734084235
Revenge in a Heartbeat (A Modern History Romance) https://www.amazon.com/dp/1734084227
Heartbeat of Desire (A Modern History Romance) https://www.amazon.com/dp/1734084219
Ryley (A Christmas Romance) https://www.amazon.com/dp/1734084200
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